Tension comes in many forms, and is present in both our internal and external worlds. Internally, we may experience tension as a pain or trauma. But external tension can often present itself as friction within a relationship or situation.
When two people have conflicting opinions, it is as if they are holding two ends of a rope. The harder they pull, they more defiant they are that they’re opinion is the right one, the more the tension increases. The rope becomes tense, taught and frayed. At some point it may even snap. But there is a simple way to avoid this… they could just let go.
If you are experiencing tension with someone, let go of your end of the rope. You may only hold 50% of the problem in your hands right now, but you also hold 100% of the solution. Drop the tension. Directing your energy into these feelings of anger will only cause harm, so no matter how ‘right’ your ego tells you you are, you’re actually wrong. How can something that causes so much tension be right?
It is so easy to victimise ourselves…
Why is this happening to me? Why do I always have to be the one to let go?
Because you can.
You can handle it, maybe the other person can’t. To let go shows kindness. It shows strength. Choose to come from the point of solution rather than conflict… how can I prevent myself from being in this situation again? When viewed this way, external tensions can become an opportunity for personal growth. An exciting challenge!